Author Archives: Orlagh Moore

Growing Up in 2019

Last week after lifting the twins from school they handed me a leaflet, I would say that nearly every school child in the North was given one.  It was the fact sheet about MOMO.  I had already heard about it but didn’t really have a clue about it.  Even after reading the sheet I still felt at a loss.  I looked it up on google and the details shocked me!!

The twins, especially the girl one, was petrified about MOMO and was viewing it as an actual person and no matter what I told her about it being a “cartoon” etc it wasn’t working as someone in the playground said that when you see it it tells you to stick a knife in the toaster or slit your neck.  We had a disturbed nights sleep after that one.  Now imagine being 6 and being faced with this info that a scary person comes out at you after using You Tube.  It is enough to give you nightmares.

To be honest it really freaked me out but to make matters frigging worse the next morning all over the news was details that instagram is now the most popular platform for groomers of young children.   “Children as young as five years old are being targeted for grooming on Instagram where attempts have more than tripled”, the NPCC has warned.

To say I near had a canary is an understatement.  I left completely overwhelmed, anxious, out of my depth, ‘stupid’.  My eldest will be a teenager this year (ah schuks away with you I know I don’t look old enough) but I am frightened for what the future holds for her.

However it got me thinking it is hard being a parent in these technological times….. imagine being a child, tween, teen…….

When we were kids who did we compare ourselves to, our siblings, our cousins, our friends.  Now with social media they can compare themselves to anyone, the world has become minute.

I sometimes find it hard not to compare myself to other people on social media.  I have to take a step back and with an adult perception, reevaluate the situation and realise that people only show you what they want, that it is a fickle world and TBH most are only in it for their own gains.

But what if you are a hormone riddled teen and you see these Amazing You Tubers who have t all.  Many of these “Stars” seem to be from wealthy backgrounds and seem to be given a free rein in life, sometimes doing stunts that endanger theirs and others lives.  It can be a very difficult thing to differentiate reality and ‘make believe’ for our kids and even though they might know things aren’t real, its a bit like, if it is on a screen it must be true!!!

When I was a kid if we had issues with someone it was a bit of a shouting match in the playground and then silence for a day or so.  Then someone would break the silence asking if they wanted a game of “Cross the Golden River”/ Chinese Skipping/ smoke behind the mobiles! All done.  All over.  Maybe a wee laugh over why we fell out

Now if there are issues it continues over a social media platform, this is the bit that I don’t get my head around that there is no break away from friends/ school many things when our kids get home.  Its funny kids now have accessibility to friends that they have made in every aspect of their lives.  Now don’t get me wrong yes we all have mates who we made through that different stages in our lives but we have realised that not all stay with you but now through social media they do.  It’s harder for kids to realise who true friends are but I know this comes with time and maturity.

This is just based on me but I look at my Niamh who is 12.  She loves her make-up, straightening her hair (which I don’t allow but she rebels) and is obsessed with her eye brows. .  I first noticed I HAD eyebrows let alone do anything about them when I was 18.  I remember putting a slick of mascara and lippie on to go up the town in First Year with Siobhan O’Neill and I was near killed by me da.  Now it is the norm,  don’t get me wrong she is not allowed out contoured within an inch of her life but if we are heading out she is allowed a little bit of slap on.  Growing up a tad too young.

At this age, during the Summer months, I would have packed a bag and jumped on my Turquoise Raleigh BMX style bike at 9am with a group of friends and you ‘ have seen me until dinner time that evening.  Would I let her do it now… hell NO!!

Even doing homework is so different.  Obviously mine was based on what we learnt that day or what we could find in the encyclopedias rather than google.  I remember getting a word processor in University and thought I was epic!

Another thing that I feel is very evident now is the competition between parents,  the kids must be involved in everything, have everything, be the best!!.  When Niamh was a younger I had to have her in everything but quickly I took a step back and realised that they need to do what they are happy at.  All it does is create anxiety and stress being involved in absolutely everything – and it shows in both the parents and the child.

It’s funny as she has moved quickly into this technological era and into the “Big School”  its “what phone” people have,  I’m going to find my old Nokia and hand her that and tell her its ‘Vintage’.  But the pressure parents put on themselves – financially and mentally is ridiculous as will they be any happier with the next I Phone – probably not!.  My young lady knows that I don’t give in to this crap and will receive our hand me downs until she is 18 and can buy her own bloody Iphone at £800 – like seriously !!

It is a very confusing world out there now – it fecking confuses the bejesus out of me!  This week we have saw the debate as to whether or not trans gender people should compete in sport within their new identity etc. Now don’t get me wrong I am all for people being happy regardless of what sex they are, who they love, whether they are gender neutral, what they want to do with themselves etc.  It is such a difference from the 80’s were we were all male or female.  But here that is another debate……

When I think back to my teens and Uni life I am glad that phones and social media were not a thing.   There were many wild nights out or stupid things that I did that I am glad was never splashed out there for the world to see.  I have the hard copies, the good oul fashioned photos, to prove these events lol.  But now they have to be so careful what goes up as it can affect future jobs, university places as when it is out there these things have a habit of raising their ugly heads at inopportune moments – just ask Jack Maynard.

I would hate to be a teen growing up here but even more so I would hate to be a teen or have a teen in City Life in England.  There is a gang mentality there that I hope will not venture here and the number of stabbings in England since the start of the year is 27 – horrific and many of them were teens.  The drug culture is now at epidemic levels.  I was speaking to a lady who was in a bathroom in Belfast and people were openly using heroin.  Hard drugs were never something that was so rife or common as it is now – well not that I remember, but that could be a naive thing from me.

It is hard being a parent in these unpredictable times, I suppose every era has its pros and cons.   It is a time when people can flourish and be the best they can without the same prejudices as 20 years ago and for that I am glad.

Social Media can be used for good it has definitely helped in my business but it has to be an open and honest portrayal as this is when the falseness sets in. Then the comparisons and eventually could let to mental health issues to many of our tweens and teens.   It is a scary world that our kids are growing up in but all we can do is teach them the best we can and as we learn pass the lessons on to them.   And most importantly as parents support and help each other as it is a learning curve for us all and unfortunately we don’t have our own parents to fall back on as this is a completely new era.

 

 

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Love Is In The Air!!!!

HAPPY ROMANTIC COMMERCIALISATION DAY!!!

Last night I was wrecking my head what to write in a blog.   I was sending ideas to “My Two Beasts” (a joke from my Instastories)  and they were getting hit right back to me – too boring, Oh really!! What Crap!!  So I asked if they had any ideas and bah humbug, Beast 2, said write about the over commercialisation of Valentines Day, so it got my thinking.

I came down this morning to be greeted with a lovely bunch of roses, my favourite Lindor chocolates and a card.  I was a little surprised but by heck he would have been in trouble if there hadn’t been something to show his unrequited love for me.

As much as I would love to be whisked out for dinner, from past experience we don’t go out for Valentines Dinner.  Once, long before marriage, before kids, before stress- we headed out for a romantic meal.  We were greeted with glasses of Prosecco at the door, to be honest I think if I carbonated my own urine it would have tasted nicer.  The dinner cost a fortune and was slapped on the plate.  I was given a rose that had seen better days – all in all a most disappointing experience and needless to say 17 years later we have never went out on Valentines night again.

Last night the kids were so excited about this Special Day and wanted to go out for dinner tonight.  Could you imagine rocking up to an eatery on Valentines night with 4 weeuns in tow.  Could you imagine the brow beat look of the parents in the restaurant as we enter and the slow, continuous nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnoooooooooooo as they had gotten a night away from their Monsters only to spend it with mine.   So instead I have decided to cook a Valentines night for all the squad – complete with new red tablecloths and heart shaped napkins.  I have fully fell hook, line and sinker for this Commercial heaven (though the tablecloths were reduced to 25p so I even bought two).

Ok, ok I am completely off track.  Why do we need one day a year to declare our love and spoil each other, should we not express this on a more regular basis.  As much as it was lovely to receive the gifts this morning wouldn’t it be a nice surprise at a random time of the year.  Possibly when I am feeling down/ anxious/ stressed (ok john would argue I’m one of them nearly every week lol).  We should tell our loved ones that we love them more often and not just because the card companies think we should.

Another reason why we shouldn’t flood our Social Media with Valentines Loveys is there are many out there who can’t.  Someone could have lost a partner, maybe they work away from home, maybe they are lonely and these expressions of love can be a bit grating for them.  I was in a local shop today and the young man serving me told me that him and his fella divorced this year and that he was finding today quite hard already and this was before 9am, so I imagine him sitting eating a wee microwave dinner tonight listening to “All By Myself”.

I do think today is just a complete money spinner, however I do get quite absorbed as I hang my heart fans from the roof and throw chocolates and candles on the table for decorations but this year its for all of us together as a unit.

Don’t even get me started on Galentines day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

“Forever in Blue Jeans”

Now I am gonna start singing “Forever in Blue Jeans”.  I thought I would write a wee blog about the amazing array of brands and styles of jeans that we have in-store and online.

Denim began as a functioning hard wearing fabric complete with rivets for manual labour jobs in America.    However the trend has grown and grown and is now a staple item in nearly each and every one of our wardrobes.  Every decade brings with it new style, colours and fabrics.

Anyone else remember the stunning Levi, Wrangler and Lee posters of the 80’s.  Chest naked men in their denim jeans (oh pick me of the floor please- I remember plaguing the folks in Stinson’s menswear to get the posters-lol).  Or the double denim look – aaaaggghh.    Ladies you can thank me later – now show your appreciation for Mr Pitt in his Levis ad – I had to put this up for the purposes of the blog.

The 90’s brought us Kris Kross  the “backwards jeans”.  Over-sized, straight-legged jeans with extremely high, nipped in waists was the general style to be “fashionable”.  

The noughties brought us “Miss Sixty” along with lots more styles.  How I loved getting into Cuba to pick mine up.  The darker the blue the better and the bigger the kick flare leg style the  more you thought you were “God’s Gift”.   I so blooming wish I could still fit into mine as I am pretty sure that I still have them tucked away somewhere to wear as vintage.

Now we are in an era of most things go!!  Skinny, straight, boyfriend, mum jeans the styles go on and on.  And even better the colours go on and on too.

The most popular denim jeans in Ring O’Rosies are Levi’s – these are available from newborn to age 14 and come in a vast array of styles.

The most popular styles for boys are the 510 skinny look or the 519 super skinny.  Boys are definitely now embracing the skinny leg in jeans – I see such a difference in jean styles from when we opened.

The girls are mainly all in a skinny fit but we have various styles here also including the ever popular jeggings.  The Levi jeans are priced from £28 for a pair of jeans or £24 for jeggings.   everyone who has bought our Levi’s have all returned for more as they are a great fit and a great look jean.  And all have the cute little red tab at the back pocket.

We recently received the Mayoral jeans in and again these are available from baby to age 9 for boys and age 16 for girls.

These jeans need a standing ovation as they are soooo soft and comfy and are all great prices.

The older girls jeans are super trendy and funky – there is a range of “ripped look blue jeans”, worn effect black jeans, moleskin velvet look ones.  And lots more.

Boys are a trendy look blue jean which again are so soft and practical.

The baby jeans are a great buy and match in with lots of different brands.   The baby girls denim has lots of sparkle which add to the cuteness – we always like a bit of bling here @Ringorosies.

And with prices from £21.50 – £33.99- they are a great piece for any of your kideroos wardrobes.

Other super popular jeans for boys are from I Do – they have gotten very popular over the past few seasons and have a trendy edge to them all.  The I Do jeans are available for ages 12 months to 12 years.  These are very well priced from £25.

Timberland denims are also a popular choice with  their skinny legs and trendy look.  We have their denim in black and blue and again available from 12 months to 12 years and are priced from £45.

Finally we have Billieblush and Billybandit.  Their denims are always a step away from the rest.  They are so on trend and sooooo different.

The girls jeans have two tone denim – sparkly dark denim legs with a lighter denim at the waistband, one the pocket money pocket and trimmed on the back pocket.  Roll us the hems and there is Billieblush branding on them.

The younger Billieblush girls have the cutest little pair of jeans available from 6 months.  They are so soft and comfy and very girlie with their buttons and rivets in bright pink.

My youngest boy is a real Billybandit boy and these jeans are right up his street.  The Billybandit jeans are similar to the girls with the two tone denim look the legs are in a mid wash blue and the waistband and pocket money pocket is in a light denim.  On the back of the left leg the word “Awesome” is printed.

I hope this has given you a little insight into the World of denim in Ring O’Rosies.  There are so many styles to choose from so hopefully there will be something to suit your little one (most of our jeans have adjustable waists ensuring a perfect fit) and with a great variety of prices we hope that there is something to suit your purse strings too.

PS the pics shown are only a few examples-  Lots & lots more available……..

 

Check them all out online……………..

 

Have A Rosie Day!!!!!!!